Are Asian Men Not As Desirable??

I don't remember where I read it or heard it but some survey said Asian men in the U.S. are the least desirable candidates for marriage. Without being too derogatory, many Asian boys are raised like little princes and waited on hand and foot by doting parents.

I know that China and Korea are patriarch centered cultures...meaning that boys are definitely more valued in both families and societies at large. Just looking at the sheer number of baby girls being adopted out in China says a lot. And in Korea, though it is slowly changing, men are very much catered to and revered. Korea is a very male oriented society. Though there are many more baby boys adopted from Korea, there is an interesting reason why this is happening.

If and when a Korean couple decides to adopt, they mostly choose baby girls. The reason being that they would only have the responsibility of raising her until she is married whereby then she would be her husband and his family's charge. The family registry would drop her name from her parents' record and add her onto her husband's family registry. The law requires this of all women who marry but this is also in the process of changing to accommodate more single mothers who want to raise their children. And this is primarily why more baby boys are available for international adoption. If the couple adopted a son, the son would take on the head of household title when the adoptive father passes on even if he is not blood related and this is where the importance of blood lineage comes into play. Because he is not the biological son, it would be a deception to record his name onto the original family registry which is pretty much like the papers that come with purebred pets, in my opinion. This records the lineage of all members of the households where the heads have always traditionally been men, usually first born sons.

Now, myself included, there are many a-parents in my immediate and cyber-communities who have boy toddlers from Korea. It will be very interesting to see this generation of boys become men and to witness how they will fare in the dating and marriage scene. These boys will be raised to respect women, be sensitive, communicate their needs as well as know how to listen, etc. All those good values that we moms of the millennium could only expect from our partners will be taught to our sons.

Heck, I thought I was marrying a very Americanized Korean guy myself, only to learn after 8 years of wedded bliss, he is just a newer and improved version of my own chauvinist father (not as bad though). I guess with familiarity comes comfort. He hasn't presented anything I couldn't handle or debate my way out of. My mother, OTOH, was always in the compromising position of being the subservient traditional wife on the outside but always needing to "vent" all her frustrations from remaining silent.

I will definitely look forward to the day when T is ready to choose his life partner. There will be so many factors involved in who he's attracted to and who will be attracted to him.